The smallest things can take us completely off course...
Chicas: *What if you ran into the cutest guy you have ever seen one evening while riding on the train...I mean he is dressed like u like em', stylish, but not metro, hair nice and thick, perfect build and smells good ( just enough) and no wedding ring in sight! U think -OMG he is PURRFECT...Then- when he sat down across from you -- you notice he has a hole in his sock just above his heel. Do you then consider him null? Most of us would (well, at least the friends I polled). Would it have made a REAL difference if the hole were there but not visible!? Meaning you dont know its there... so no sight -no mind. Or if the hole was not there at all - would that change the person that this person is? Its a shame how we let the smallest thing get in our way, deter us from our ambitions and pursuits. If you want something go after it - things are only perfect in our minds! :)
*The above is a metaphor - substitue above male for anything in your world that fits the mold.